Category: Pastors’ Column

In 2018, I went with a delegation from Pittsburgh Theological Seminary to visit our partners at the Evangelical Theological Seminary in Cairo, Egypt. People in Egypt have a different conception of time than we do. There is a strong sense of the imminence of the past in the present. For example, when asked for a brief history of the seminary, people would invariably say something like, “Certainly. Saint Mark came to Egypt in the 1st century…” 2,000 years is as brief as it gets in Egypt!

I returned to Egypt last Christmas with my spouse, mother, and brother. Many of the Christians we met this time around spoke with great pride about how, even before Saint Mark came to Egypt, the holy family found refuge in Egypt shortly after Jesus’ birth. Matthew 2 recounts King Herod’s infuriation at the prophecies he heard from the wise men about the boy Jesus, an infuriation that led to his ordering the murder of all baby boys near Bethlehem. Jesus, Mary, and Joseph waited out this slaughter in Egypt until Joseph had a dream that it was safe to return.

Just as there was a straight line from Saint Mark to the seminary in Cairo, there was a straight line from providing shelter to the holy family in their time of need to extravagant hospitality for Christians traveling far away from home at Christmastime. These ancient stories had an immediacy in their present moment.

We do not have the luxury of monuments millennia old all around us to remind us of our connection to the past. Nevertheless, I hope you feel the immediacy and imminence of the Christmas story in your life this season. I hope you have the chance to see in yourself or someone else those qualities, whatever they are, that led to God becoming incarnate in people just like us. I hope you have the chance to offer hospitality to people in need, like the holy family in Bethlehem. I hope you have the chance to show compassion to those from faraway places seeking refuge, like the holy family in Egypt. I hope you have the chance to outsmart the King Herods of the world, just like the wise men did. I hope the Christmas story is alive in your life this season.

Merry Christmas.

I’ve had more than a few people tell me that Advent has flown by fast, and they can hardly believe it’s almost Christmas. It is true that this year the calendar gave us the shortest Advent season possible, but it always feels a bit rushed in this last week before Christmas, doesn’t it?

Company’s coming, there’s baking to do, gifts to purchase and wrap, the house to decorate, and all the rest can add up to a frenetic feeling. At the church, we’ve been proofreading and printing a seemingly countless number of bulletins for multiple services. Deacons are delivering poinsettias, and the Care Team is following up on urgent pastoral concerns. The musicians and pastors are making special preparations, and behind-the-scenes volunteers are beautifying, baking, and serving alongside many mission partners.

When this joyful season begins to feel more full than joyous, and I feel the need to stop and breathe deeply and find some respite from the hasty preparations, I turn to this favorite Gaelic Blessing.

Deep peace of the running wave to you.

Deep peace of the flowing air to you.

Deep peace of the quiet earth to you.

Deep peace of the shining stars to you.

Deep peace of the gentle night to you.

Moon and stars pour their healing light on you.

Deep peace of Christ the light of the world to you.

Deep peace of Christ to you.

These words, their rhythmic repetition, and their lovely images from the natural beauty of God’s creation, have the power to center and refocus me on what matters most as we prepare for the rebirth of Christ in our hearts. When the outer world seems to spin in far too much chaos, violence and fear, this Gaelic Blessing reminds me to heed the invitation from the Letter to the Colossians to “let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts.”

In her introduction to poet David Whyte’s book entitled Consolations, author Maria Popova says, “Words possess us more than we possess them. They feed on us more than we feed on them.” In this culminating countdown to Christmas, may we be possessed by formative words of deep peace, which seems a fitting way to welcome anew the Word made flesh, whom we have come to call the Prince of Peace.

For more than 40 years, BMPC has enjoyed an annual musical event during the seasons of Advent and Christmas. These Sunday afternoon programs have run the gamut from semi-staged operettas to celebrations of the American southwest to performances of “Messiah,” to performances of Menotti’s “Amahl and the Night Visitors, “to Lessons and Carols services. This year, we will offer a foretaste of Christmas Eve with a festive Christmas Lessons and Carols service.

Patterned after the celebrated annual services at Kings College Cambridge, this service will feature nine lessons accompanied by singing, either by the Sanctuary Choir or the congregation. The lessons detail the story of the fall of humanity, the promise of the Messiah, and the birth of Jesus told in nine short Bible readings or lessons from Genesis, the prophetic books, and the Gospels, interspersed with the singing of Christmas carols, hymns, and choir anthems.

Joining the Sanctuary Choir is the Bryn Mawr Festival Brass and carillonneur Lisa Lonie, who will present a festive prelude before the service.

Sunday’s service is filled with gorgeous choral works, including favorites by John Rutter, John Stainer, G.F. Handel, David Willcocks, and Philip Ledger. Of special note, in anticipation of the choir’s tour to France next summer, Pierre Villette’s stunning “Hymne à la Vierge” will be presented in French! This service presents an opportunity to hear amazing choral music and to lift your voices in praise in several carols accompanied by brass and organ. This is also an opportunity to show gratitude to friends and family by inviting them to join you in what promises to be a deeply stirring service of word and music. A free-will offering will be received to help defray the costs of the service. Please join us this Sunday, December 15, at 4 p.m.

We are just three weeks from once again hosting the Lower Merion Code Blue Shelter in our building for January. Last year was a transformative experience for our neighbors and our congregation as we welcomed men sleeping outside in our community on the coldest winter nights to stay in the church gym. Hosting again this January will continue to shape who we are as a church and as individuals.

Inevitably, the prospect of staying up all night (or even half the night) as a volunteer at our Code Blue shelter can seem exhausting. I can confirm that it is as someone who volunteered multiple shifts last year. I am unsure when “all-nighters” used to be easy for me, but they aren’t anymore. And yet, the benefit of volunteering at the shelter, at least for me, far outweighs the inconvenience of a lost night of sleep.

I have shared before and will share again here the significance of being able to welcome guests into our own church spaces here– both personally and professionally. For too long, our sense of mission and service has been characterized as something we do elsewhere. We gather in the church parking lot to carpool together to a mission partner in Philly. We meet up at the international terminal at the airport to fly off to and connect with our global partners. Yes, we make over 1,300 casseroles in our very own kitchen each year, but almost none of the 100-plus casserole makers who serve faithfully ever get to greet and serve the neighbors who eat them.

Over the past four years, our Mission Council has been intentionally focused on Bryn Mawr, Lower Merion, or even the Main Line as a fertile field for engagement, learning, and service. The creation of this Code Blue shelter was never in our minds when these local mission conversations began, but it has been the catalyst for changing our mission paradigm one overnight shift at a time.

Each of us who volunteer at the shelter takes on an important responsibility. It is a responsibility beyond offering hospitality, food, and shelter to our guests. It is a responsibility beyond assisting guests when necessary to access the assistance available to them through County services. It is a responsibility beyond ensuring the safety and maintenance of our spaces.

The important responsibility that overshadows all of those others is the weight of being the face, the hands, and the feet of our congregation and Jesus Christ for a world in need, to represent to the community who we are and what we value in loving all of our neighbors, to shift the impression that we are one-dimensionally that “big fancy church on Montgomery Ave.”

This vital work transforms who we are as a church, and the weight of this responsibility carried by all those who step up to be a part of this work also changes who we are. It builds new connections among us. It deepens our experience of faith. It strengthens our identity as members not just of this church community but the community at large.

I know that almost all who volunteered at the shelter last winter are planning to do so again this January. But I want to encourage you, if you didn’t have the chance to volunteer last year, to join us at the training this Sunday at 3:00 p.m. in Congregational Hall. At that gathering we will share the details of hosting the shelter, but also share with one another how we were each transformed through this work.

Gracious God, we celebrate this Thanksgiving Day by rejoicing in the abundance of your many blessings. We are thankful for our nation’s long-ago commitment to setting aside a day of rest dedicated to gratitude. We praise you for your goodness, which makes life meaningful and fills our days with joy. Thank you for the love we share with family and friends, for your claim upon our lives to share our gifts with others, and for your grace, which binds us to one another in community.

As the season shifts from fall into winter, the days are cooler, and the nights are longer; thank you for your light that shines within us and through us as disciples of Christ. We are grateful for the shelter of comfortable homes, for tables overflowing with the food of your good earth, and for the company we share among those we cherish and those whom you beckon us to serve. We give thanks for the church, which brings us together for worship, to raise our voices to the music of the spheres, to enjoy Christian nurture among our congregation, and to reach out in service to those in need.

As we celebrate the uniquely American holiday of Thanksgiving, we give thanks for our country’s beauty and wonder, its brave history, and a future of hope and dreams. We ask your guidance among leaders who govern us, our allies with whom we share a common call to justice, and all those who work to ensure basic human needs for your children the world over. May the earliest Thanksgiving meals shared long ago on the shores of this young nation inspire that wonderous peace that comes through cooperation and appreciation of human diversity.

As we feast around bountiful tables, we are mindful of those who do not have enough to eat in our community, in our fair city, and the world. We pray for you to work miracles again of multiplying bread and enlisting us to share it. May our gatherings this day be blessed by your presence so that we may be strengthened to serve you in all we do in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

Agnes W. Norfleet

Pastor

Pastors, especially interim ones like me, step into stories that began long before they arrived in a congregation and will continue to be told long after they leave. Why things are done in an idiosyncratic way, why certain people or committees are at odds, or the fabled origins of a beloved tradition are common stories pastors must navigate. Of course, this can be challenging, but other times, it is a delight to step into a story that started before you and will continue long after you. The annual youth Thanksgiving Pancake Breakfast, occurring next Thursday, Thanksgiving Day, from 8:30-11:30 a.m. in Congregational Hall, is one such delightful story.

I have heard the breakfast described as a homecoming of sorts, where the kids whom we have sent off into the world return home as young adults or where families that have moved away return to see old friends. One colleague told me the breakfast pretty much runs itself as people of all ages pitch in to decorate, cook, eat (that part is important), wash dishes, and clean up.

We’re heading into a season that, for many of us, is a time of joy. For others, it is a season of dread that we’re just trying to survive. As relationships change or loved ones pass away, traditions that were once delightful become melancholy. Likewise, sad stories we didn’t realize were keeping us stuck can be told in new ways to become a source of new life and hope.

Whatever else Thanksgiving looks like for you, joyful or otherwise, I hope you start your day by joining us in telling the longstanding and delightful story of the Thanksgiving Pancake Breakfast. Bring a friend. Sign up to volunteer by clicking here. Throw caution to the wind and go for the chocolate chip pancakes. By the way, this event has morphed from fundraiser into funraiser recently… and that’s a tradition I wouldn’t mind changing! Please consider donating beyond the $5/person or $20/family to support the Youth Ministry at BMPC.

This year, I’m thankful to be part of the story being told at BMPC. I look forward to seeing you next Thursday.

This week, every year for the past ten years, I have written to the church about the virtue of alternative giving at Christmas. I have told you that the piles of physical gifts in our house have continued to shrink. I have shared how I use gifts given through AGM to teach my friends and family about the mission work of BMPC. I have even confessed how I send fewer and fewer Christmas cards each year, but when I do, they no longer have baby pictures but AGM insert cards stuffed in them. But this year, I want to highlight something completely different regarding the BMPC Advent Gift Market.

First, I want to celebrate what is again an extraordinary and compelling AGM catalog packed with longstanding partners in mission, relevant organizations working to bring compassion and justice in the world, and gifts that support the actual work that BMPC members are doing in mission in our local community. Each gift is represented in a small card you can insert in your Christmas Cards, holiday hostess gifts, and packages wrapped under the tree.

But this year, I also want to share a growing trend we have seen at the Advent Gift Market in the past few years.

While giving to AGM is higher than ever – last year’s donations totaled over $56,000 – the number of people asking for those small “insert” cards essential to the alternative gift process continues to decline.

That is because an increasing number of members of our congregation and our larger community are using the Advent Gift Market to make generous charitable donations at the end of the year. The donors with whom I have spoken share how much they value using the AGM catalog to learn about the church’s priorities and partnerships in mission and as a guide for their end-of-year charitable donations.

I couldn’t be more thrilled with this development. To me, it is a sign that, in addition to folks giving generously through their pledges and offerings throughout the year to support the wide work of our congregation in the community and the world, when members look to give beyond the church, they still look to the church to help them connect with often small but vital organizations making a difference in a hurting world.

I encourage you to shop this Sunday and throughout Advent, keeping in mind this “alternative” way of giving through the Advent Gift Market. The opening event will take place in Congregational Hall this Sunday following worship, where Councils, Committees, and even representatives from partner organizations will be available to chat. However, you can also shop online today at www.BrynMawrAGM.com.

I will never stop being moved by this congregation’s generosity. It is a privilege to help create resources that support you all in your generosity. I hope that this year’s AGM catalog will encourage you to be more generous than ever this Christmas season.

Grace and peace to you from God and our Redeemer Jesus Christ in the unity of the Holy Spirit.

This has been a difficult election season during a time of great division in our country and community. Our families and church family have been anxious and conflicted. This fall, the church has hosted many gatherings to help us consider and claim our values as Christians and as citizens. Through preaching and prayer in worship, classes, special programming, and a Community Forum focused on political polarization, BMPC has encouraged engagement in political dialogue with those of differing perspectives and voting responsibly according to our Christian values and as Presbyterians who affirm the basic tenet of Reformed theology that “God alone is Lord of the conscience.”

Some in our communion are glad the election is over, are relieved that so many outcomes have swung in the Republicans’ direction, and are ready to embrace whatever a second Donald Trump presidency will bring. Others have been repelled by the first Trump presidency and the January 6th insurrection; the xenophobic, violent, and misogynistic rhetoric and mistruths heard at so many of his rallies; the rollback of women’s agency over healthcare decisions; and fear of what may be over the horizon. These folks have shared they find themselves shocked, grieving, and traumatized.

Whether you are relieved or despondent, you are not alone. Many pundits are out there trying to put this election in historical perspective as we wrestle with its outcomes. Our job as members of the church is to take the long view historically and remember that the community of God’s faithful has almost always existed in a dangerous and fraught political climate. Those little tribes of Abraham and Sarah’s descendants were often defeated and exiled under brutal conditions. The prophets summoned them to hope and trust that God was doing a new thing. The Gospels and Epistles show us how the early church was divided and persecuted by the powerful political forces of the Roman Empire. Followers of Christ were urged to live faithfully against the odds, upheld by God’s justice, faithfulness, goodness, and mercy. In this moment, we are still called to put on the armor of light, to reject the power of evil in the world, and to love God by loving and serving one another and those in need.

Our Book of Common Worship has a prayer for a nation in crisis that reads:

God of ages, in your sight, nations rise and fall and pass through times of peril. Now, when our land is troubled, be near to judge and save. May leaders be led by your wisdom; may they search your will and see it clearly. If we have turned from your way, help us to reverse our ways and repent. Give us your light and your truth to guide us; through Jesus Christ, who reigns over the world.

May this time-honored prayer guide our prayers and actions. As we step into the future together, may we heed the call of the prophet to do justice, love kindness and walk humbly with God, and the call of Christ to love God and to love our neighbor as ourselves.

Regardless of one’s stage in life, certain dates are remembered. A child’s birthday, a couple’s first date, the birthday of a beloved pet, perhaps the date you were offered your dream job, and, of course, wedding anniversaries! For most of us, those landmark dates also include the date a loved one passed from this life to the next. While birthdays are typically observed in a group with much festivity, dates such as a spouse, parent, or child’s passing are typically observed with some solitary reflection. I have lived long enough to now observe many such dates –my brother and mother, numerous choir members, and countless beloved members of BMPC. Even with the passage of time, these observances are difficult.

With this coming Sunday’s observance of All Saints Day, the BMPC congregation and friends in the community will be given the privilege of coming together as a very large family to remember our loved ones, especially those who have left this earth during the past year. During this most moving service of the year, the choir will offer one of the most beautiful choral works of the 20th century, Maurice Duruflé’s Requiem. Composed in 1947, Duruflé’s setting is perhaps the most moving of all settings of the Requiem. It has none of the bombast of Verdi’s or Berlioz’s settings. Like Fauré’s setting, this is a Requiem filled with peace and hope. Unique to Duruflé, he based much of the material in his Requiem on Gregorian chant and the Gregorian Mass for the Dead.

Duruflé’s masterpiece, presented along with Dr. Norfleet’s sermon, the Lord’s Supper, the reading of the names of those members who have died this past year, and the tolling of the carillon, will demonstrate the church at work as an agent of comfort and peace, and a powerful witness to Christ’s Resurrection.

Through the years, I’ve been blessed by friendships with several clergy mentors, from whom I have learned many of those churchy things that don’t get taught in seminary. Among them, the best teacher for stewardship was the late K.C. Ptomey, who chose autumn as the season to retire so he could preach through yet another Stewardship Season at his beloved Westminster Presbyterian Church in Nashville. Nearing the end of a long and distinguished career in ministry, K.C. enjoyed being plain-spoken and honest about the need for his congregation to support the church with their financial resources.

After 41 annual pledge drives and more than a few capital campaigns, K.C. said, “I’ve seen everything… house-to-house calls, letters, telephone campaigns, challenges to tithe, banners, posters, fancy stationery, charts, graphs, movies, skits, Bible studies, potluck suppers, lunches, breakfasts, dessert parties, efforts to impart guilt, promises of eternal bliss, threats of hell-fire and damnation. I’ve seen it all. I’ve done it all.”

K.C said, “But what a lifetime of ministry has finally taught me is that generosity simply comes out of people who have experienced the love of God,

the unmerited grace and goodness of the living God, which is something we can never earn, which is always out of proportion to what we deserve. Awareness, deep awareness of the abundant and undeserved goodness of God, is the only thing I know of that can elicit abounding generosity. Guilt, slick stewardship messages, and charts won’t do it. But awareness, deep awareness, of the abundant and undeserved goodness of God – that will do it.”

I invite you to prepare for this coming Sunday’s Stewardship Dedication by considering your awareness of God’s goodness and grace. Take a prayerful inventory of your depth of gratitude for God’s gifts of beauty, of community, and of our church family. Ponder our stewardship theme, Bryn Mawr Gives Light, and think about how the church has been a light for you and how your light has shone through the ministries of BMPC.

Filling out a pledge card and making a regular financial commitment to the church is an act of generosity, an expression of gratitude, and a sign of deep awareness that everything we have of ultimate value is a gift from God. But before you do, I suggest you pause and think about God’s gifts of life and light and then make your commitment out of deep awareness.